Actually, I do not have a good solution to the problem myself. The situation is from my friend's experience. To my knowledge, the two of them are hardly in contact these days. I would thus like to propose a solution based on Jon and Kenny's comments.
Lisa could have probably came up with a list of reasons for her decision. This could include both her personal reasons as well as a number of issues that she has about Candice. For the latter, as Jon suggested, it should be phrased in a neutral manner, such that it is not perceived as a personal insult. Instead of saying that she could not tolerate her slow habits, Lisa could have said that she is aware of her short temper. If they stay together, she is worried that she will be continually snapping at Candice and create a lot of tension between them. For her personal reasons, she could have said that part of her objectives in going for this trip is to experience living abroad alone. While coming up with her reasons, Lisa could have been mindful about what kind of effect they will have on Lisa, and try to understand her possible reactions to them. Finally, Lisa could have stressed that an important reason in wanting to go alone is to maintain their friendship. This will be especially true if she believes that their friendship will be badly affected if they stay together.
Most of us probably face similar dilemmas and problems when interacting with our friends. Being aware of how our words and actions may affect our friends will likely be an important factor towards maintaining friendship.
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